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Meditation : Day 5 – 10

A hearty thanks and immense love to all of you. Now that we have gone through the first 5 days of meditation (https://lovetravel.co.in/2017/11/14/learn-meditation-step-by-step-day-1-5/) , we take a step more to come closer to our Being and our inner Self.

Before we take the next leap, we take a small look back to the 5 days.

  • So why the first 5 days of just letting your thoughts come ?
  1. For beginners and people who are trying to get into meditation practice, the urgency and importance of doing meditation should be crystal clear. Lot of people fail to continue meditation for many reasons, one being thinking that its not time for them to start meditation OR they don’t understand the urgency to start doing it. By just sitting quietly or meditating without much trying, people just cannot concentrate or get confused. They could see the chaos or plethora of thoughts thats running in their mind – and Yes this is a clear understanding(should be) to start meditation.
  2. Another reasons for people to not do meditation is because they are impatient. The first 5 days is primarily to make you sit everyday. This is majorly to build the patience that is needed to even try to start meditation. A regular routine is a MUST for any practitioner to get the benefits of meditation.
  3. For beginners or people who have never tried meditation, using imagination, thinking something beautiful or even just sitting with closed eyes prepares one(mind) for something new.
  4. The first 5 days is to make your body, mind and you getting atuned to a new practice.
  5. And the feedbacks and discussion was designed to help all. Its more like a warm up for all for the real game. And i hope we all are there.

Now that we all have seen what and how much of thoughts is carried inside the mind, we begin with a routine which will help us to reduce the thoughts that keep coming and eventually calm  the mind to completely be in Bliss of the moment/s and receive the blessings of this Universe and Cosmos.

SITTING POSITION :

The first one is ideal as it creates better energy circle around you else second position showed above is also good. No matter which one – you should be comfortable.

  • As soon as you open your eyes at morning, don’t rush for anything. Be in your lying position and just slowly inhale and exhale. May be a quick short time to feel the early breaths.
  • START the day with POSITIVE NOTE. SAY GOOD WORDS TO YOURSELF.
  • Get fresh and prepare to sit for your meditation time.
  • Put on a very light and peaceful music (youtube has many) OR sit in complete silence.
  • Sit straight and comfortably with a straight spine. Close your eyes and make your body be completely relaxed. Ask your body and mind to lose and give away any tension it carries.
  • Take some deep breath(3-4) before normalizing your breath. As you settle to your normal breathing pace –  keep your attention and focus on your breathing.
  • As you breathe further – breathe effortlessly – feel the flow of the cool of your breath as u inhale and feel it as you exhale it. Realize that you are in no rush and slowly and gently do the breathing.
  • As you move into more peaceful breathing, sense the awareness of your mind relaxing.
  • Do not control or create any expectation while you are in the process, just breathe naturally.
  • Use your abdomen to breathe in and out(gently). With every breath in, feel the gush of air that u inhale. With every breathe out, feel an emptiness of space in the abdomen (do not push or try if it doesn’t feel so).
  • ANYTIME, if thoughts pop up or mind wanders – just put your focus and attention back to your breathing and continue doing so.
  • Sit for between 15 mins to 30 mins, even more if possible(do not push).

— Before you sleep at night, again do a small quick breathing and feel your breath as you fall into sleep.

— During the entire day of doing, pause when ever and where ever possible to just feel your breath. Even a 1 or a 2 is good. Give 100% to whatever you do – even the most mundane of task(focus on breathing). Share the difference if any.

MEDITATION and The INNER JOURNEY IS ANOTHER UNIVERSE. THE MORE YOU GO DEEP THE MORE YOU GET SURPRISED.

30 days minimum of regular practice and the difference will be felt. Hence forth you will take the dive all alone, on your own TO EXPLORE THE INNER YOU – Just don’t create any expectation.

We go head with the feedbacks and discussion similar to the first 5 days.

Learn Meditation : step by step : Day 1 – 5

Day 1 to 5:

*** Hope you have already read my article on what to know before starting meditation ? If not please read it before we begin on the beautiful journey together and with so many others . https://lovetravel.co.in/2017/11/14/before-starting-meditation/ ***

Ideal time – early mornings after bath, else anytime during the day . Just don’t miss a day. Play a light melodious music, any that you love. (no song)

Find a clean peaceful space (sunlight recommended) if at home, if in office or any other place, find a quiet place. Do not worry about the surrounding – much, untill you could have a quiet time there for you.

Sit straight somewhere with straight spine. Sit comfortably – anywhere, where you could give next 15 minutes of your day –  just to yourself. Prefer crossed leg, else long legged is OK.

Remember your intention before we start. We repeat this together : “I will have a happy, peaceful, harmonious, joyous and loving life. I will do the best for myself ”

Gently close your eyes and do as follows:

{ “I AM HEALING” . On a count of 4 breathe in(feel your breath) and on a count of 6 breathe out(Relax your body and mind) – Repeat 5 times and on every breath out – relax and settle down more .Settle to your normal breathing pace and let your mind relax. For the next 10-15 minutes just sit calmly. DONT think to control anything. Let mind do its job. Use your imagination and visualization to keep calm. } (Open eyes gently and observe your surrounding every time)

Repeat the above for the next 5 days, without a miss.

** Note down your experiences everyday. Share in the group or me **

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Before starting Meditation

We all know the benefits that meditation carries. This one tool has been working beautifully and effortlessly since ages – as long back as 3000 BCE. The best part about meditation is that – it has no side affects – all that it has is benefits and benefits. Various aspects of meditation helps us relieve mental as well as physical pain and also helps us cope up with lot of ailments.

As I say, knowledge is ample today – everywhere – what at large people miss is the understanding. Knowledge without understanding is like a car without wheels – you could sit inside the body, play with the steering, listen to music – but the very intent of being in a car is lost.

So before we start meditation – its really important to understand – What meditation is ? What happens in the process ? How to get utmost benefit from meditation ?

  1. What is Meditation ? —  Meditation is a tool, a practice that helps us calm our mind. It is a device that helps us to clear the chaos in our mind that is developed over years  – due to external agencies – happenings, past, experiences and also to clear the chaos that is created because of future events – expectations, lot of plannings, desires. In a sense it is tool that brings you closer to your present – it brings you to your NOW – Your ONLY TRUE MOMENT.                                                                          Meditation is a science that helps us better understand the two amazingly super powerful tools – MIND & BODY . Our entire world is an expression of this body and mind and understanding this helps us create experiences that are exactly or even nearer to what we want. Meditation is NOT about disconnecting its about Connecting. The process talks about disconnecting in many places – it is only to connect again. Meditation is the gateway to go WITHIN.
  2. What happens in the process ? —  There are various ways and techniques to meditate. All eventually leading to the one and the same happenings – cleansing mind & body, understanding the connect between – mind, body and soul and preparing to get a tuned to the natural (effortless) flow of the Universe.
  3. How to get utmost benefit from meditation ? — A very crucial and IMPORTANT question. Though the practice or techniques of meditation seems very easy to do – it REALLY ISN’T that easy. To receive an utmost benefit of meditation remember the following points ( sacrosanct) :
  • SET CLEAR INTENTION/s – Understand why you want to meditate ? What is that you are looking to add into your life through meditation ? Keep recalling these intentions again and again.
  • BE DISCIPLINED – Lot of people fail because they cannot or does not bring meditation into a routine, disciplined act. A discipline is a MUST MUST MUST . Once it gets into your routine life – its just a few moments of conscious peace that you practice everyday – Its all that easy and soothing. MAKE IT A HABIT.
  • REFLECTION – Always take small bit of time to reflect onto your meditative time. Best is to have a journal to write about your experience/s. Notice and realize your own experience (What it is doesn’t matter).  DO NOT REACT, just let it flow.176518-The-Brain-Before-And-After-Meditation

NOTE : Sleeping is an unconscious meditation. Creative work is an unconscious meditation. Relaxing is an unconscious meditation. All these moments heals us, makes us joyous and happy – Imagine what experiences could happen when we CONSCIOUSLY MEDITATE. And even more, imagine what transformation could be brought to the world if its done Collectively !!

ALL MY ENERGIES AND LOVE TO YOU !!

Love !!!

What is Love ? – these four letter words ?

Love is not a want, Love cannot be a desire.

Love cannot be with one or some – Love is Entire.

Love is beyond the physical and beyond the mental.

Love is the Beauty that you carry deep inside you.

Love is You.cosmic-body

Love is that purity than could clean any impurity that could be defined in this universe.

Love is Eternal.

Love is that essence that fills the gap between you and everything around you.

Love never wants, Love never desires – it just does one thing – It Loves !

Humans try to bring meaning to everything – even Love ? So they try to define Love – Love is A Bliss. Love – thats in you, in me and in every person on this planet today. It cannot be defined – it could only be experienced. Science has made attempts to define Love – in pulses, in the pulsating heart……does it mean my cells are deprived of Love ? Science may confine Love – Nature doesn’t. Nature carries it, nature spreads it.

Love is the light we all carry inside us – The Beauty !

There are crazy definitions out there – don’t make your heart be confused. Heart is Simple and Loves simplicity in everything – it Loves the calmness – it Loves the silence. In silence and calmness Love dances – Love blossoms. Throw away the heaviness in the mind – let calmness and silence take the heaviness away – make it light. A light mind hears music in every sound and hears a song in every rhythm – and then Love dances and makes you dance.

Don’t Love for reasons, neither Love with conditions. Let Love be un-conditional. Give AND take Love unconditionally. Make everyone feel that what you are – touch everyone with Love.

Sink deep with Love. Rise high with Love.

The ones that you have loved – have reached heights – it was never sheer talent – it is collective Love – Your Love. Media told you to Love your superstars and see where they are – far from the ordinary – cause you have made them extra ordinary – with your Love. Not that they don’t deserve it – just that You too deserve it – everybody around you deserves it. Love is powerful. I quote this example – for you may understand what your Love could define the world like.

Love – Coz that is what YOU are !!

 

The Conditioned Mind

What is the conditioned mind ? And when do you call a mind being conditioned ?

A mind that is not in its natural state of being – is a conditioned mind. A mind that is entirely a result of external feedings is a conditioned mind. A mind that is not as per the bearers understanding of the world – is a conditioned mind. Humans have the tendency and capacity to condition their mind in ways that would help them and keep them in good healthy environment. That means a child who knows his best, could condition his mind to match best to a life that he wants – question is does the child really know his best? Or does a child know at all?

Result – un counting few – ones who have lived their lives naturally and did what they thought came very naturally to them and ones who understood their conditioning and could re-condition their minds for their good – REST – all are living with a conditioned mind that is a hard crust of understanding / behavior and beliefs that was pushed into the child’s mind from the external world.

Many people have lived or rather i should say – will live their entire life with this hard conditioning – unknown and unaware of . These are people who are rich, successful (in their own terms or society), famous and even the poor, middle class and et all.

The conditioned mind becomes so much you, that you barely understand or have zero clue of any such conditioning. The way you react to certain situations, the way you treat different people, what you talk, what you eat – oh hell yes – your entire life is a result of your hard conditioning that has happened over the years.

Breaking this hard cocoon that the mind becomes is probably the most difficult task anybody could take.

Without ones self understanding and willingness to get better, the conditioning cannot be given away. There are layers of protection that people carry – ego, fear, attitudes, believes, arrogance, ignorance, narrow mindedness, all these and more masks the conditioned mind.

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An Unconditoned Mind – Expands

People who have a bit of self awareness and are willing to break the conditioning are the ones who could Evolve into the Better and are the ones who could live a life of A Bliss.

Unfortunately, today there is a much much larger crowd thats living life in a false belief of there own self and are just sleep walking in their daily doings – Unaware, Unconcerned, Unknown and Uninterrupted. These are the same people who have deviced tools and techniques to torture their own self – unknown and unnoticed.

Today, as the world is, we all need to take initiatives to make our self better, to break the conditioning – for one and all. To break the conditioning and understand the world with more love and compassion, with more beauty and intelligence, with more sense and with more humane.

Most important is to really realize the conditioned mind, without realizing, one cannot -cannot get free from the conditioning. Its like – even to forget – one needs to recall first.

A small attempt to bring this understanding to the larger crowd and to help realize people of their conditioning or to make them better understand their minds – I have compiled some pages for you in my upcoming book – ” The Conditioned Mind ” . The book shall take a deep dive into the world of the conditioned mind and how it happens over years.

The book is unbiased towards any idea or thought coz it comes from a person who has closely observed his own conditioned mind and today is a liberated soul.

The book was never an intention –  doing good and helping others always is.

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Ardhanarishvara – half man half women !!

Ardhanarishvara – a form that depicts Shiv and Parvati together, in one body. The most loved and revered God – Shiva is said to have given a part of him to Parvati or in some writings, Parvati willingness to experience Shiva’s energy made her pulled in Shiva.

I guess because of the male skewed society since ages, the emphasis has been given to Shiv more just because He was a male first. All writings that i have read says that Shiva shed a part of Him to accommodate Parvati.

I have something more to add on to the understanding that has been said and written since ages.

Prior to your reading ahead, do give a read to Sadhguru’s explanation to Ardhanarishvara. He definitely has given a nice explanation, but there are some more that i would want to add on to his explanation and also there is something that i might want to really differ to.

http://isha.sadhguru.org/blog/yoga-meditation/demystifying-yoga/ardhanarishvara/

Ardhanarishvara is a form that holds Male(Shiva) and Female(Parvati) in pure balance. This form that is usually said to be of Shiv, could also be said to be of Parvati. So to say that Shiva gave his body to accommodate Parvati does not really sound too perfect to me. Male has been given undue weight-age since ages and its time that a better understanding needs to be developed. The male biased mindset could be seen in everything around.  And is one of the reason for the major turmoil going all around. Why? (Shall write on this in my next chapter)

Everything in nature is at sheer balance. The entire solar system is at balance, nature itself is in balance with everything. This is exactly what Ardhanarishvara signifies. A complete and wholesome balance – half male and half female. Sadhguru mentioned in his article very clearly that this form doesn’t mean two people getting connected – the “feminine” and “masculine” are certain qualities, but he could not be more clear to his audience.

What are those qualities ? What is that balance that even the God depicts ? Does this balance has something to do with the kind of world that have been created today ?

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To go further we need to understand the true nature of a Male and a Female.

Male is all intellect and strength.

Female is all love and beauty.

Ardhanarishvara – is a unison of the true male and the true female. Ardhanarishvara is intellect, strength, love and beauty in one body –  the body of God – Shiva and Parvati signifies these qualities in a male and female. This is the balance of life that God depicts. Every male should have the true nature of female imbibed in him and every female should have the true nature of male imbibed in her.

The world at large is not in balance today. I feel this form, that even God depicts has much much to do with every human being on this earth today. There are many divine souls who have found this balance and have a very good understanding to the balance – inside and outside. The Gods are not just to worship – the Gods are to be lived !!

Winning and Losing – Know your testosterone .

We all know this 2 very very important words in our lives – Win & Lose. Now these are not “just” two words for 99.9999% of the world today. Its a far more important and sensitive term – because winning is not only a Win – its pride, ego, happiness, pleasure as far as –  life for some. On the other hand losing is not only a Loss – its depression,ego, frustration, loneliness, as far as – life for some.

I shall not speak of the extremes here. Taking a Win or Loss to as extreme as throwing your precious life over it – is foolish – extremely foolish.

I shall talk about how much winning and losing is important in ones life. When a person wins a competition – he feels good, confident, smart and happy. On the other hand the person who loses – feels timid, upset, frustrated at times and sad. Its most likely that the winner will win again if faced with the same competitor in future. These are more likely termed as the “winners effect” and the “losers effect”.

The interesting fact is more biological than behavioral. The winners always tends to have a testosterone boost at end of the game and the losers testosterone level dips. This inner biological changes makes the winner smarter, confident and with improved cognitive functions and the loser more timid, less competitive and low on energy in long run. Ideally people who participate in the competition – both have this small boost of the testosterone . After the competition the large differences in the level is visible.

On the other hand for people who do not participate in the competition at all – there is a total loss. Neither they get the benefits of winning nor do they taste the experience that comes from losing. In times of competition, hardships or challenges – the 3rd kind is likely to fail miserably. They are the ones who fall to their knees before even the bells are rung.

There are further more than interesting facts that might help us all to know about winning and losing. Winning continuously gives strong boost to the testosterone level and after a peak one might become over confident and make mistakes in their decisions. So it makes lot of sense to celebrate all wins with more sensibility and understanding.

Not that losers don’t get their bit. The losers should be sporting and realize what their mistakes are and should work to improve them and start preparation for the next competition. Holding on to the loss will make life worse.

And people who keep running from the competition and challenges – You should take a chance – you shall always be on the better side.

Now that you know how testosterone effects you in so many ways and how you could manage the “winning & losing affect ” – i shall also let you know that there are lot of natural ways to boost ones testosterone. Check the link below.

Its a small insight to give you an understanding of how your external behavior and environment stimulates the inner you and also how inner simulation could help you better reciprocate to the outer environment. The study of hormones and their magical affect is pretty vast and complex. None the less knowing whats important is worth.

** A piece of note : People watching their favorite team play on television shows a similar effect when their team wins or the teams losses. So be careful of how you attach your self with the ones on the screen.

Please do comment and share the blog. It might be of help to many.

 

 

 

FREEDOM !!! ??

Today is the day when we see all Hindustanis and many more people celebrating the Independence Day. A day when India got Independence, a day when the Indians wrestled out themselves from the chains of slavery of the Britishers. A day when the breath of freedom surrounded India’s atmosphere. A day when justice was made to the effort of all the heroes who sacrificed their entire life for the Freedom of the country, for the Freedom of you, for the Freedom of us – all.

But for all the fight, all the sacrifices, for all the doings and all the struggle that lead to this glorious day that we call The Independence Day – just a day of celebration ? Just a Day !

I ponder over this day today. I want to see the Freedom that my country men are celebrating. I see not that what you celebrate today. I understand not what you define as freedom. I see different freedom for different people. Freedom is conditioned on your status, money, power, identity and so much more. Should i call this Freedom ? A man kills and he is set free and another man kills and he was hanged. So could we say – one has the freedom to do whatever they want and another cannot ? A women fears to walk the deadly path where she knows an innocent girl her age was raped and killed . Is she free ? Education today chooses pupil, the child cannot choose education – so is this freedom ? People kill each other in the name of religion – is this freedom ? Superstition still prevails in entire country and people live life on those superstition – is this freedom ? You are overburden with emi’s, with things that you cannot afford – is this freedom ?

OPEN YOUR EYES !!

Where is the Freedom that you are celebrating ? Lets face it – don’t mock yourself – you are more enslaved than you ever where and than you ever think you could have been. You are slave to everything around you. You are like the bird who thought it was free – until one day it thought of flying and realized that the wings are no more – cut long ago.

It is no more the Britishers that are enslaving you. They have gone long ago. You could celebrate as many freedom days as you could – nobody stops you from doing that. But its time you – all – ask yourself – Am I FREE?

You were free – once – in the womb of your mother, not any more. The world was not designed for Freedom – it is only designed for slavery – at large. People who realized the true meaning of freedom – designed a new world around them with others who understood that freedom – many of them.

FREEDOM is the language of heart. A language only a free heart could understand .

 

 

GOD WHERE ARE YOU !!

Everybody worship and everybody tends to search for that intangible – the God. The more people search the more It has been hiding. May be people are looking at the wrong places, may be something is missing in the prayers or may be the search needs to come to an end.

Today i see God everywhere and in everything. The divine is all around us, in the sound of the barking dog, in the feel of the swift breeze, in the singing of the birds, in family, in friends and in me. Today i am no more in search of the divine, the God. I have realized It and that brings an end to the search. The end of search is a new beginning of our relation – His and mine. Until you stop your search, you will not realize Him and until you don’t realize Him – you cannot enjoy the relationship – neither does He.

This blog is a small journey of me – in search of the Holy.

My belief in God was very very strong as a kid. As time passed the belief was challenged many times. Every time something went wrong i challenged my own belief in God – that had been my learning from my environment. People blamed God for all mis-happenings and i followed. After my college a small incident happened and i stopped all belief in the God – i became an atheist (as the society knows it). Couple of years of this behavior, a small bait for the ego mind, this continued.

I don’t exactly remember when, but as i grew up i saw myself visiting to temples again, started chanting some mantras too. There was something which was around me and my prayers became more regular. The mantras always had a soothing effect on me and i did more of it. I had found my God – the Shiva. Everything about Him was so appealing and i could only relate to Him – deeply. I became a Shiva worshiper.

During the same time i also hit upon meditation, a tool to help me come closer to Shiva and also to bring more peace – in and around. My rituals started changing with time. I was meditating more and the prayers were vanishing . Every meditation brought me closer to Shiva. My imagination was running high and i was loving every bit of it. Meditation initially was like kinder-garden  to me. I was playing around in my thoughts and my imagination. One thing i had realized was that no matter what your initial meditation practice be like – it will always make you better – clearer .Even a small concentration or an attempt will show you a path. No matter how much cloudy and vague this path may look, you will always have an inner urge to go further , to explore more, to learn more and to question more.

With every meditation and the with the rapidly changing world around me, i started questioning Shiva. As He was near me i had every right to get the answers (as i was thinking) . Never did i receive any answer from Him. As my mediation kept going deep and my questions becoming louder – a strange thing started happening – Shiva was losing his form. May be because i never got any answer, my belief and my mind both started its own game. There were no answers for rapes, no answers for killing, no answers for corruption –  nothing – nothing at all. Finally one day i lost Shiva – as a form, but there was something new that was arising . As Shiva got dissolved – a energy form took His place. I could feel it very clearly, the energy – without form – no structure – just energy. I dropped my idea of any God in any form. I started talking to people that there is no God – its only an energy. With time my belief in any form of God just evaporated. God became formless for me – It had lost all its identity. With this new energy that i found in place of God, i felt more connected , more in harmony – no form – no identity to remember – that meant no form to concentrate to. This was possibly the first stage where i was moving close to meditation – not my playful form of meditation – but true meditation. My inner was becoming calm and serene. The questions that i had – i never got any answer – but then they also disappeared.

That was 3 years ago. I still meditate, with more serenity and purity. There is no search today for the God – because Divine is everywhere, in everything and in nothing. I have felt Him within me, i have felt Him in my parents, i realize Him in the garden of flowers, i realize Him in the air, i realize Him in birds, i realize Him in the sky, i realize Him in everything and i realize Him in nothing.

This Day Is My Day!

This day is my day.
I wud do anything in my capacity to do what I love to do. This day is the only day that I have.

This day I wud spend for myself, this day I wud work to be happy. This day is precious, this time is precious. This day I wud not let things happen to me; rather this day I wud make the happenings. This day I wud take charge of my life. This day I wud bring most value to my life and to the life of others who are around me. This day I become aware of my doings, this day I seek for what I am, this day I do things that my heart & soul wants me to do. 

This day I give away the fear, fear of everything, cause the fear will hold me back from living my life. This day I give away the worries. This day I take one more step to create the world that I have always believed in. This day I put one more brick to the making of my world – My World !

This day I bring something better for me. This day I do something better for me. This day will not come again, this time will not show up again. 

This day, I write my own story, this day I decide. This day, I stand for myself. This day I believe that I am better, this day I believe I can do much better. This day, I realize my dream. 

This day I will not let go. This day I will not pass again. This day I will not walk that road which is not meant for me, this day I will explore the road that I always wanted to walk.

This day, I will clear the clouds, this day, I will move the mountains – stone by stone. This day I will fly, this day I will open my wings of freedom. This day I will dance, this day I will sing.

Live not surviveThis day I will live. This day I will do more than just survive .

This day is my only day, this day will not come again, this time will not show up again –

This day is my day !! This is my only day !!