Winning and Losing – Know your testosterone .

We all know this 2 very very important words in our lives – Win & Lose. Now these are not “just” two words for 99.9999% of the world today. Its a far more important and sensitive term – because winning is not only a Win – its pride, ego, happiness, pleasure as far as –  life for some. On the other hand losing is not only a Loss – its depression,ego, frustration, loneliness, as far as – life for some.

I shall not speak of the extremes here. Taking a Win or Loss to as extreme as throwing your precious life over it – is foolish – extremely foolish.

I shall talk about how much winning and losing is important in ones life. When a person wins a competition – he feels good, confident, smart and happy. On the other hand the person who loses – feels timid, upset, frustrated at times and sad. Its most likely that the winner will win again if faced with the same competitor in future. These are more likely termed as the “winners effect” and the “losers effect”.

The interesting fact is more biological than behavioral. The winners always tends to have a testosterone boost at end of the game and the losers testosterone level dips. This inner biological changes makes the winner smarter, confident and with improved cognitive functions and the loser more timid, less competitive and low on energy in long run. Ideally people who participate in the competition – both have this small boost of the testosterone . After the competition the large differences in the level is visible.

On the other hand for people who do not participate in the competition at all – there is a total loss. Neither they get the benefits of winning nor do they taste the experience that comes from losing. In times of competition, hardships or challenges – the 3rd kind is likely to fail miserably. They are the ones who fall to their knees before even the bells are rung.

There are further more than interesting facts that might help us all to know about winning and losing. Winning continuously gives strong boost to the testosterone level and after a peak one might become over confident and make mistakes in their decisions. So it makes lot of sense to celebrate all wins with more sensibility and understanding.

Not that losers don’t get their bit. The losers should be sporting and realize what their mistakes are and should work to improve them and start preparation for the next competition. Holding on to the loss will make life worse.

And people who keep running from the competition and challenges – You should take a chance – you shall always be on the better side.

Now that you know how testosterone effects you in so many ways and how you could manage the “winning & losing affect ” – i shall also let you know that there are lot of natural ways to boost ones testosterone. Check the link below.

Its a small insight to give you an understanding of how your external behavior and environment stimulates the inner you and also how inner simulation could help you better reciprocate to the outer environment. The study of hormones and their magical affect is pretty vast and complex. None the less knowing whats important is worth.

** A piece of note : People watching their favorite team play on television shows a similar effect when their team wins or the teams losses. So be careful of how you attach your self with the ones on the screen.

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FREEDOM !!! ??

Today is the day when we see all Hindustanis and many more people celebrating the Independence Day. A day when India got Independence, a day when the Indians wrestled out themselves from the chains of slavery of the Britishers. A day when the breath of freedom surrounded India’s atmosphere. A day when justice was made to the effort of all the heroes who sacrificed their entire life for the Freedom of the country, for the Freedom of you, for the Freedom of us – all.

But for all the fight, all the sacrifices, for all the doings and all the struggle that lead to this glorious day that we call The Independence Day – just a day of celebration ? Just a Day !

I ponder over this day today. I want to see the Freedom that my country men are celebrating. I see not that what you celebrate today. I understand not what you define as freedom. I see different freedom for different people. Freedom is conditioned on your status, money, power, identity and so much more. Should i call this Freedom ? A man kills and he is set free and another man kills and he was hanged. So could we say – one has the freedom to do whatever they want and another cannot ? A women fears to walk the deadly path where she knows an innocent girl her age was raped and killed . Is she free ? Education today chooses pupil, the child cannot choose education – so is this freedom ? People kill each other in the name of religion – is this freedom ? Superstition still prevails in entire country and people live life on those superstition – is this freedom ? You are overburden with emi’s, with things that you cannot afford – is this freedom ?

OPEN YOUR EYES !!

Where is the Freedom that you are celebrating ? Lets face it – don’t mock yourself – you are more enslaved than you ever where and than you ever think you could have been. You are slave to everything around you. You are like the bird who thought it was free – until one day it thought of flying and realized that the wings are no more – cut long ago.

It is no more the Britishers that are enslaving you. They have gone long ago. You could celebrate as many freedom days as you could – nobody stops you from doing that. But its time you – all – ask yourself – Am I FREE?

You were free – once – in the womb of your mother, not any more. The world was not designed for Freedom – it is only designed for slavery – at large. People who realized the true meaning of freedom – designed a new world around them with others who understood that freedom – many of them.

FREEDOM is the language of heart. A language only a free heart could understand .

 

 

GOD WHERE ARE YOU !!

Everybody worship and everybody tends to search for that intangible – the God. The more people search the more It has been hiding. May be people are looking at the wrong places, may be something is missing in the prayers or may be the search needs to come to an end.

Today i see God everywhere and in everything. The divine is all around us, in the sound of the barking dog, in the feel of the swift breeze, in the singing of the birds, in family, in friends and in me. Today i am no more in search of the divine, the God. I have realized It and that brings an end to the search. The end of search is a new beginning of our relation – His and mine. Until you stop your search, you will not realize Him and until you don’t realize Him – you cannot enjoy the relationship – neither does He.

This blog is a small journey of me – in search of the Holy.

My belief in God was very very strong as a kid. As time passed the belief was challenged many times. Every time something went wrong i challenged my own belief in God – that had been my learning from my environment. People blamed God for all mis-happenings and i followed. After my college a small incident happened and i stopped all belief in the God – i became an atheist (as the society knows it). Couple of years of this behavior, a small bait for the ego mind, this continued.

I don’t exactly remember when, but as i grew up i saw myself visiting to temples again, started chanting some mantras too. There was something which was around me and my prayers became more regular. The mantras always had a soothing effect on me and i did more of it. I had found my God – the Shiva. Everything about Him was so appealing and i could only relate to Him – deeply. I became a Shiva worshiper.

During the same time i also hit upon meditation, a tool to help me come closer to Shiva and also to bring more peace – in and around. My rituals started changing with time. I was meditating more and the prayers were vanishing . Every meditation brought me closer to Shiva. My imagination was running high and i was loving every bit of it. Meditation initially was like kinder-garden  to me. I was playing around in my thoughts and my imagination. One thing i had realized was that no matter what your initial meditation practice be like – it will always make you better – clearer .Even a small concentration or an attempt will show you a path. No matter how much cloudy and vague this path may look, you will always have an inner urge to go further , to explore more, to learn more and to question more.

With every meditation and the with the rapidly changing world around me, i started questioning Shiva. As He was near me i had every right to get the answers (as i was thinking) . Never did i receive any answer from Him. As my mediation kept going deep and my questions becoming louder – a strange thing started happening – Shiva was losing his form. May be because i never got any answer, my belief and my mind both started its own game. There were no answers for rapes, no answers for killing, no answers for corruption –  nothing – nothing at all. Finally one day i lost Shiva – as a form, but there was something new that was arising . As Shiva got dissolved – a energy form took His place. I could feel it very clearly, the energy – without form – no structure – just energy. I dropped my idea of any God in any form. I started talking to people that there is no God – its only an energy. With time my belief in any form of God just evaporated. God became formless for me – It had lost all its identity. With this new energy that i found in place of God, i felt more connected , more in harmony – no form – no identity to remember – that meant no form to concentrate to. This was possibly the first stage where i was moving close to meditation – not my playful form of meditation – but true meditation. My inner was becoming calm and serene. The questions that i had – i never got any answer – but then they also disappeared.

That was 3 years ago. I still meditate, with more serenity and purity. There is no search today for the God – because Divine is everywhere, in everything and in nothing. I have felt Him within me, i have felt Him in my parents, i realize Him in the garden of flowers, i realize Him in the air, i realize Him in birds, i realize Him in the sky, i realize Him in everything and i realize Him in nothing.